The 4th trimester is often the greatest time of change for any new parent, leaving you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.
For many new mums, the 12 weeks following birth are not only about managing their own physical recovery from childbirth, but also dealing with the demands of a newborn and other family members.
Bringing your newborn home is quite a big disruption to your pre-birth life, the focus will now naturally shift to that of your baby and their well-being, and it’s quite common to overlook your own needs during this time.
There will of course be days when you see small milestones that leave your heart full of joy, but even if this is not your first baby, it’s easy to forget how time consuming a newborn is, especially when for the most part, they are solely dependent on you.
This is why planning ahead is crucial even before you go into labour. Sit down with family and friends, discuss what type of support, and help you may need for the first three months when your baby has been born. Remember you don’t have to be superwoman, share the load of household chores, preparing meals, or looking after older siblings with others.
A nutritious diet is so very important in your 4th trimester as you juggle looking after a new baby and getting back to your post-birth routine, and it’s not something you should be skipping. If you’re choosing to breastfeed your diet is even more important so, if possible, prepare meals ahead and freeze them, and keep healthy snacks around the home to keep energy levels up throughout the day.
It’s so important for your recovery and with a newborn often awake every couple of hours, getting in a few naps during the day are vital for your physical and emotional well-being. If you feel anxious sleeping when it’s just the two of you, ask a family member or friend to look after your baby so you can rest.
At around 6 weeks you will be invited to visit your doctor or health clinic for your postnatal check-up. This is not only an opportunity to check your physical recovery, but is also a time to share with your doctor, gynaecologist or healthcare provider how you are managing on a daily basis, many mums get the ‘baby blues’ a few days after giving birth, but if you’re feeling sad, unable to cope or bond with your baby for longer than this, you may have ‘postnatal depression’, this is nothing to be ashamed of, nor should you keep it a secret, there is a wealth of help out there for this condition and your doctor or mid-wife will be there to offer you all the support you need.
You may be forgiven for thinking that your baby is living their best life, snuggled close to you, fed on demand with all their needs being met. But let’s remember what a huge transition this is for a newborn that has been living protected in amniotic fluid for 9 months, the world must feel very strange and alarming to them, and for this reason keeping them as close to you as possible is so important.
For 9 months, when you’ve been on the go, they’ve been right there with you, your perpetual movement will be second nature to them and it’s often why a baby is more settled when they are in your arms. But let’s be honest it’s not practical for any new mum to hold their baby 24/7, and this is when swaddling can be so beneficial. For the first three months and until your little one starts to explore their surroundings, they can take great comfort in being swaddled and by gently restricting movement of their arms and legs you are instantly creating the same environment they have been used to for 9 months.
It’s said that babies are more likely to be restless and cry during the 4th trimester than at any other time, understandable when you take a few moments to think back to what life must have been like for your baby over the last 9 months, what would they have heard or felt. This is why some babies welcome the sound of gentle shushing noises that mimic the sound of blood rushing around your body. For others, the feel of warm water can sooth and create a feeling of calmness as it did in the uterus.
Skin-to-Skin Contact: Feeling your skin next to theirs and being so close they can hear yours, or your partners heartbeat enhances bonding and provides comfort.
Feeding on Demand: Responding to baby’s hunger cues, rather than sticking to strict schedules, helps to strengthen the bond you have created during your pregnancy.
Swaddling: Mirroring the warm and snug environment of the uterus will provide comfort and security in those first overwhelming three months following birth.
Setting the Mood: Gentle noise, soft lighting, appropriate room temperature, and soothing movements can help ease the baby into their new environment.
The 4th trimester is a period of immense change and adjustment for you and your family too! By planning ahead, seeking support, maintaining a healthy diet, ensuring adequate rest, and creating a comforting environment for the baby, new parents can navigate this phase more smoothly and create a more positive and manageable postnatal experience.
Finally, think of the fourth trimester as your way of recreating the environment your baby has lived in for the last 9 months and as gradual process to help them adjust to their new surroundings and the world we live in, it's a pretty big change for them!
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The 4th trimester is crucial for your baby’s development and bonding with parents. During this time, babies need to feel secure and nurtured to help with their physical, emotional, and neurological development. For parents, it’s a time to establish breastfeeding, recover from childbirth, and adapt to their new family dynamics.
