If you’re a single dad, or even a weekend dad raising a daughter, there will be times when you have to navigate topics that might feel unfamiliar—like a first period!
As a father talking to your daughter about periods can feel a little daunting—for both of you. You want to be there for her, offer support, and answer her questions, but you also don’t want to come across as unsure or make her feel uncomfortable.
The good news is this doesn’t have to be a single, big conversation. Instead, think of it as an ongoing chat that grows as she does. This guide will help you talk to your daughter about periods in a way that’s understanding, supportive, and free of embarrassment for both of you.
So, who starts the conversation? Should you wait for her to ask, or bring it up yourself? Here are some simple and natural ways to make it easier for both of you.
It really doesn't have to be a big or serious chat, there are plenty of everyday moments when the topic of periods and puberty can come up naturally and being prepared is vital to ensure you give your daughter clear and reassuring advice.
If one of these moments happens, you can casually introduce the topic with something like:
“That’s a great question! Periods are a normal part of growing up, and they’re something all girls go through. Do you want to chat about it?”
If she hasn’t brought it up, don’t worry—it’s okay to start the conversation yourself and leave it open for her to come to when she feels ready.
By mentioning it first you will be letting your daughter know that periods are not something she needs to keep a secret from you. Try not to make a joke about them, as this really is a big deal for teens going through puberty, so try something like:
“Hey, I know you’re growing up, and I wanted to chat about something important - periods. You might have already heard a bit about them at school or from friends, but I just want you to know that I’m here if you ever have questions.”
By keeping it open-ended and casual, she won’t feel pressured to have a long talk right away.
We know that for many dads, talking about periods can feel a little awkward, and finding the right words isn’t always easy. But don’t worry you don’t have to be an expert to support your daughter. It’s completely okay to start with the basics and let the conversation grow from there.
You don’t need to go into too much detail at first—just cover the basics in an age-appropriate way:
And whilst she may feel fine chatting to you about this, don't be too upset if she ever feels embarrassed or uncomfortable talking to you, consider asking a trusted female figure (an older sister or cousin, aunt, family friend, or school nurse) to be someone she can reach out to.
Before she gets her first period, it’s a good idea to put together a little period kit with pads, pantyliners, and spare underwear. Let her know she can keep it in her school bag, so she never gets caught off guard, or at your house if she only visits at the weekends.
If she has questions about tampons or menstrual cups, answer them honestly but let her know she doesn’t need to use those until she’s ready.
Check out our Teens range of pads and liners for your daughter.
We also have a How To Use A Pad blog she may like to see.
How To Use PadsYour daughter might experience cramps, bloating, mood swings, or headaches before or during her period. Here are some simple ways to help:
Finally, your first period talk doesn’t have to be perfect—you don’t have to have all the answers—you just need to be there for her!
The more comfortable and approachable you are, the easier it will be for her to ask questions in the future. Most importantly, remind her that she’s not alone, and you’re always here to help.
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Period Talk - How To Talk To Your Child About PeriodsAs a parent, you want to help your daughter feel comfortable, confident, and prepared for this new stage in her life. That’s where pantyliners and pads come in.
Why Your Daughter Needs Pantyliners and PadsTalking to your daughter about puberty can feel a little awkward and one of the first chats you will have will most likely be about first bras and breast development.
When Will My Daughter Need Her First Bra?
A first period can last anywhere from 2 to 10 days and may be light, with only a few spots of blood, or heavier. It can also be irregular for the first year or two before settling into a pattern.
Some of the most common signs of a first period coming soon are; Breast growth, vaginal discharge, growth spurts, pubic and under arm hair growth and of course mood swings.
Most children start their periods between ages 10 and 15, with the average being around 12-13. However, it’s normal to start earlier or later. Look for signs of puberty, such as breast development and vaginal discharge, which can signal that their first period may be coming soon.
It's good to have a mix of period supplies at home and in your daughter's school bag, with pads or liners that will help them manage their period. Go for a regular or mini pad as a first choice.
Yes, for some it may be a little uncomfortable. It really does depend on the individual and it's best to discuss period cramps with them before a first period arrives so they know what to expect. If your child does experience cramps or lower tummy and back pain, offer a warm heat pack or show them some stretching exercises that will help.
Keep conversations light and short, let them ask questions, share your own first period experience, have some books or online resources they can look at. And let them know they can chat to you anytime they feel ready.
If your daughter is 16-18 and has not had their first period it may be advisable to have a quick chat with your doctor, they may simply be late to puberty, but it's always good to get them checked over. Very heavy periods, that require a pad change every 2 hours or less, or feeling sick and dizzy should also be brought to your doctors attention.
