Don't confuse loving who you are with being arrogant or a showoff. There is a big difference between being kind to yourself and 'bigging' yourself up in front of others.
Worthless, ugly, stupid… if these are some of the words you use to describe yourself or even how you think, then you are setting your day up to be a disaster, creating misery all around you and quite frankly it must be exhausting being so down on life all the time.
Of course you’re not perfect…none of us are, but you don’t have to be perfect to be happy. So stop putting pressure on yourself and most importantly stop being your own worst critic. Learn to focus on what you do have, and appreciate what is good about your life.
If you’re someone who can take the smallest of thoughts or situations and turn them into a huge monster of a problem going over them time and time again, then take a few moments to think of something you really like. Keep a small photo album of happy times in your life, have a list of tunes that make you feel happy, keep a copy of a favourite and funny film in your room. Go for a walk in the sun, or even in the rain, take your wellies and jump in puddles. Keeping busy and taking your mind off the problem will quickly break these habits of negative thinking.
There is a clear link between a healthy attitude and a healthy body. So, ditch the junk food, eat well and do something every day that makes you a little out of breath.
It should be you! So, get into the habit of looking in the mirror every morning, say “I love you and I’m going to prove it to you today”. Sounds silly we know, but by saying the words you are already making a conscious promise to have a good day. Have a little conversation with yourself, ensuring only positive feedback is given.
You say... “Think, I’ll put my hair up today.”
You reply with...” You should it’s a really nice look on you.”
If something happens during the day that leaves you in a negative groove, go to the loo, look in the mirror and say to yourself; “Oh well, I still love you, let’s move on, enjoy what’s left of the day.”
Don’t feel guilty for loving yourself and remember until you learn to love yourself you probably won’t be able to love someone else. Being kind to oneself and offering praise and positive thoughts are a great way to teach yourself to give love and accept love from others.
