First Kisses & First Dates

First Kiss

It's completely normal to feel excited and nervous about your first kiss it's a natural and special moment that should be enjoyed. Here are some tips to help make your first kiss memorable:

Ask anyone a first kiss can be exciting and daunting all at the same time. Lots of girls worry about what technique to use, being really nervous…or that your special someone will fall into fits of laughter. Here are some tips that should make this very special moment in your life memorable:

• Kissing is the most natural pastime in the world and whilst it’s ok to practice on your pillow when the time comes you will instinctively know what to do.
• Being nervous can make lips dry so moisturise with a lip balm or clear gloss.
• Don’t rush it. Relax and take your time and you could even let the other person take the lead.
• A first kiss is a very personal moment in anyone’s life so don’t be afraid to tell your date that you would prefer NOT to do it in front of a group of friends.
• Whilst it can be fun to gaze into someone’s eyes when kissing, some people find it uncomfortable. So, just as your lips are about to touch, gently close your eyes and enjoy the moment.
• Turn your head slightly to the right or left to ensure noses don’t bump. Don’t worry if they do - it’s ok to laugh and it takes time to get to know what the other person likes.
• You may ask yourself ‘What do I do with the rest of my body?’ A good tip is to lightly place your arms around the other person’s neck or waist.
• If you’re a little taller than someone, don’t worry, you can just bend your head a little.
• Don’t feel pressured into French kissing (when the tongue is placed gently in the mouth). But if you feel that this is something you would like to try, slowly open your mouth, and gently touch the other person’s lips with your tongue, they will get the hint and respond.
• We all like encouragement but very often moaning or sighing is difficult when your lips are locked, so instead gently squeeze the other person’s arm, or simply stop, give them a smile,, and continue.
• Finally, when the moment has ended don’t be tempted to pull away, instead rest your head on the other person’s shoulder and give them a hug so they understand you enjoyed your first kiss.

Take It Slow: Remember that the foundation of any relationship is friendship. Take the time to get to know your date and build a strong connection before moving on to dating.

First Date Ideas: Choosing a first date activity can be nerve-wracking, but it's also an opportunity to have fun and get to know each other better. If the going to the movies feels too intimate, consider activities like visiting an aquarium, bowling, mini-golf, or seeing a local band.

Let Your Parents Know Your Dating: Ok so they may tease you or raise an eyebrow but they have a responsibility to look after your well-being and need to know where you are and who you’re with. Why not ask if you can invite your date round one evening for dinner so they can get to know them a little better. Don’t be too upset if they insist on an ‘open door’ policy if you and your date go to your bedroom! Agree curfews too so there is no confusion as to what time you should be home.

Setting Boundaries: Never feel obligated to do something you're uncomfortable with, regardless of what your date may say, don’t give in to pressure. Respect your own boundaries and expect your partner to do the same.

Privacy Matters: Tempting as it may be your friends do not have to know all of the details of your relationship. Respect your date’s privacy and keep intimate details between the two of you.

Balancing Time with Friends: It's important to maintain a balance between spending time with your date and nurturing your friendships. Make time for both, as friends play a crucial role in your life too.

We Are All Different: Don’t be too upset if you find after a while you and your date no longer share the same interests or even argue. Splitting up can happen to anyone and if it does, be the bigger person and accept it and move on with a view to remaining friends.

Dates Don’t Mind… you taking the initiative to text first it shows you’re interested and can break the ice. Keep it light-hearted with jokes or cute pictures to make your date feel at ease.

Dates Don’t Mind…if you take a perfect selfie, so don't worry about looking "perfect" in every selfie—embrace your unique and genuine personality.

Dates Don’t Mind…how you dress in or out of school. Dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and confident. Your date will appreciate you being true to yourself more than trying to impress with trendy or revealing outfits. 

Dates Don’t Mind… if you don’t like the same music/movies/football teams as them. It's okay not to share all the same interests. Embrace the opportunity to learn about each other's likes and dislikes without criticizing or judging.

Dates Don’t Mind…if you like to eat! So, enjoy your meal without stressing about dieting or appearance. Your date is interested in you as you are, so feel free to eat what you like without worrying about judgment.

Dates Don’t Mind… if you change your appearance. Don’t get too upset if your crush doesn’t notice your new bangs and don’t mistake their silence for disapproval. Some people just aren’t that bothered about small talk and giving out compliments.

Dates Don’t Mind…if you don’t flirt!  In fact, they can find too much flirting a little embarrassing and off-putting, And don’t be afraid to be goofy and joke around. or even laugh at yourself, it’s just as attractive and will put them at ease too.

Dates Don’t Mind…if your parents try to make small talk. Remember they have parents too and they will be equally as cringe worthy in their eyes. They may even be a little relieved that your family are taking the time to get to know them and involve them in conversations.

Dates Don’t Mind…whether you ask them out first. Most people are just happy to know that someone is interested in them. Even if the answer is no, don’t be disheartened, say “Ok” and let them know you still want to be friends, it may be that they are not yet ready to date anyone.

So, there you have it, being genuine, confident, and respectful is key to a successful dating experience. Trust yourself, enjoy the moment, and remember that your date is likely just as nervous and excited as you are.